When two retirement home residents, Art and Frieda, started to hold hands, kiss, and typically enjoy one another's company, family members became livid. Why? Art and Frieda are married but not to one another.
When family members attempted to intervene by getting in contact with and asking the elderly home staff to ban contact between the two, the ethics ruling body answered that that the autonomy of the couple superceded the wishes of the family. Not only that, but when it came to taking care of the elderly, the staff had no right to keep the two apart nor administer medication to "dampen" their desires. This case, reported from Sweden, reflects that cheating is a developing issue for senior citizen homes, nursing home staff, and elderly home patient family members. How should family members respond to this type of infidelity in marriage?
Family members can help each other by first assessing whether or not this attraction is due to whom Dad really is (garrulous, funny, gregarious) or if some character change has taken place thanks to dementia. After the initial shock, families who see Dad spending time with somebody in the nursing home who isn't his wife frequently report how contented he looks and how much joy they seem to share.
If a personality change has happened, the attraction may be a reflection of this different personality and not a reflection of the father they love and remember. If a cognitive deficit has taken place (long-term memory loss) then families must consider this: if we cannot recall past promises, are we morally bound by them? Many piquant pictures have been authored about an individual successfully wooing his partner who can't remember her vows due to brain injury or dementia. This is a passionate portrayal, nonetheless, the actuality is that spouses of unfaithful dementia patients feel betrayed.
Emotional trouble increases if Dad has had a history of infidelity. Family members can make a response to this by supporting Mom, each other, and getting outside help if needed.
When family members attempted to intervene by getting in contact with and asking the elderly home staff to ban contact between the two, the ethics ruling body answered that that the autonomy of the couple superceded the wishes of the family. Not only that, but when it came to taking care of the elderly, the staff had no right to keep the two apart nor administer medication to "dampen" their desires. This case, reported from Sweden, reflects that cheating is a developing issue for senior citizen homes, nursing home staff, and elderly home patient family members. How should family members respond to this type of infidelity in marriage?
Family members can help each other by first assessing whether or not this attraction is due to whom Dad really is (garrulous, funny, gregarious) or if some character change has taken place thanks to dementia. After the initial shock, families who see Dad spending time with somebody in the nursing home who isn't his wife frequently report how contented he looks and how much joy they seem to share.
If a personality change has happened, the attraction may be a reflection of this different personality and not a reflection of the father they love and remember. If a cognitive deficit has taken place (long-term memory loss) then families must consider this: if we cannot recall past promises, are we morally bound by them? Many piquant pictures have been authored about an individual successfully wooing his partner who can't remember her vows due to brain injury or dementia. This is a passionate portrayal, nonetheless, the actuality is that spouses of unfaithful dementia patients feel betrayed.
Emotional trouble increases if Dad has had a history of infidelity. Family members can make a response to this by supporting Mom, each other, and getting outside help if needed.
About the Author:
Dr. Kate Walker is an Approved Professional Advisor in the Woodlands, Texas. Her article outlines the difficulty of being exposed to adultery in senior citizen homes while taking care of the elderly.
1 comments:
Thanks for sharing the details.
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